This is a thorn. I have been guilty of this. But this goes deeper into something called "Lashon Hara," which means, "Evil tongue" in Hebrew. It means more than gossip. It is literally speaking death over something, someone, or some place. It is spiritual murder. Our words are powerful, and goes out into the atmosphere...just like feathers in the wind, can never be regathered, so too, words can never be unspoken.
The saying...sticks and stones...it is a lie. Word are a weapon of murder. Chew on that.
The soothing tongue is a tree of life,
but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.